Abusing another is rewarding for certain, usually very
insecure, individuals. It's dangerous for a victim to make an ineffective
effort to end abuse, particularly physical abuse. Once an abuser knows
their victim has tried to make them stop, and can't, they develop even
more power and become more intimidating and dangerous.
Many abused people are shocked to discover themselves in such a fearful
and difficult situation. They often don't think they have the courage
or strength to put an end to it themselves. But when they finally get
the system involved, they are at last on a path that can get them out
of their personal turmoil.
Let the authorities deal with the abuser! The police are a great ally,
as are attorneys and the court system. Use them when you need to. You
could be saving your own life, or your children's lives, and you most
certainly will be increasing the quality and happiness of life of everyone
concerned.